you really have to accept a lot of things as a new mother to remain in a calm state.
it’s probably important to think this through some before you actually have a baby.
i’ve thought about it for years and am STILL inspired to write about the craziness of it.

not only do you have to accept.
but you’ve got to be OKAY with it.
i have found joy in it, but you need to be okay with it, at least.

you have to accept that you may have to sit with her in your arms and pat her back for an hour because sometimes that’s what she needs to fall asleep.

you have to accept that the baby just may want to nurse for three or four hours today and there’s nothing you will do for that time except sit on that couch, maybe catch some interesting daytime tv, or read a magazine (or two!) or that she’s going through a gassy time and wants to be held a lot more than usual making it tough to do all those chores around the house you thought you’d get to. that hours of your day may be spent completely at your baby’s will.

you’ve got to be okay with the fact you just may not get that shower for awhile,
you’ll remain stinky and you may not get to eat a real lunch,
you may not brush your hair, put pants on, or get yourself looking remotely cuter for when your man comes home or UPS is at the door.

you have to accept that right now you’re blogging in a robe, soaking wet, with a towel wrapped around your head, but you needed to do something personal so used the time this way and are hoping for the best in the next hour.

you’ve got to realize that it may be really really cold to take a shower with the curtain open and the bathroom door open because you decided to shower quickly while she sleeps but placed the bassinet right outside the door just incase she needs you. let me just say…BRRRRRRRRRRRR

you have to accept that feeding her is more important than yourself at the moment, that whatever she needs comes first. yes, her laundry goes first and YES she just shit all OVER that cute little outfit you just finished putting on her.

people will tell you this over and over again. it’s one thing to hear it but the reality of it can be overwhelming. i can see why women get depressed or even resentful of their little one at first. i’m sure it’s especially hard if you didn’t really put it into perspective BEFORE the baby came. i mean, i thought about this a lot and i’m not going to lie and say i’ve been in a great mood every single moment.
i’ve had a couple of moments being frustrated and then realizing it’s fine. why isn’t she sleeping when she’s supposed to? why won’t she finish eating before sleeping, she’s going to wake up in an hour for more!? you know what, it doesn’t matter why — SHE doesn’t even know why! so you just deal with it..with a smile, i always say.

i find joy in it because this is what i want to do. i want to experience motherhood and dedicating myself to the life i’ve created completely. i’ve thought about it for years, this is the right time, and here i am living a non-selfish life.

but Word to the Wise: go deep inside yourself and reflect hard when thinking about motherhood. you don’t want it to be a slap in the face that drops you to the floor.
i once knew a girl who said she didn’t want children because she didn’t want to resent the child for not being able to buy herself a pair of Gucci shoes and she felt she would. i respect that because at least, she thought about it and knew where she stood. she was honest with herself and there’s no shame in that.

on a light note–

you also need to realize that he does recognize everything that you do and does find you beautiful with no makeup on and all that spit-up all over your shirt with your cracked and sore nipples.

you also realize that this is just Newborn time, soon she’ll be holding her head up and smiling at you.
imagine, she’ll hold her own bottle soon! there’s much to experience and spending your entire day with your baby while she’s a newborn really isn’t that bad in the long run.

it’s all good.