i forget to be careful with my opinions on parenting styles.
i really think i should just keep my mouth shut about it. i read the other day that differences in parenting styles can totally split up friendships. i suppose that makes sense because it is so personal.
i guess i never realized it. especially since my opinions about the issue are very new. they’re barely four months old, probably more like one month!

everyone has their opinion and their style. even folks without children have their opinion. (that was once me, too) but if the we’re not careful in our tones and what we say to each other, we can almost offend. it works both ways, i get it. i totally take things personally, especially as a new mom. ESPECIALLY since most opinions and pieces of advice from everyone are almost always contrary to my own beliefs. so i get it, which is why i think i should keep my mouth shut about it as much as i can. nod my head and thank you for the advice. i never thought our style would feel like a new age style in parenting. is it such a new idea to not want to sit and listen to your own child “cry it out” as if there were no other choice in this world? is it that new an idea to WANT attachment with your child?
how can you tell me i’m going to end up in therapy if i continue on my path? i’m four months a mother!

it brings me back to loneliness though, there’s like two other people besides my husband that i can freely talk about parenting and things i’m going through with that are with me. that understand what i’m trying to do here or how i feel as a mother. moms that feel like me and have well behaved, good, happy children that are NOT in therapy. it almost seems that whatever works for you can still create a yummy little child. some things are definitely left to personality i think. babies are certainly born a certain way too. also highly depends on the personality of the parents. craziness. craziness that i will continue to learn about for the rest of my life. how exciting, this is definitely the journey i want to be on!

in conclusion, if it’s tough for me to hear certain things, it must be for other mommies too, which is why i say shut up about it, girl. keep it to yourself and the three other people you can talk to about it. i’m going with what feels right and so far, it’s working out for us. we’re a happy family.

how dope is THAT.